I wanted to be a mom for years, and Mother's Day was always a difficult reminder I wasn't a mom yet. However, just because I really wanted to be a mom, and felt I would be a mom one day, didn't mean I ever felt comfortable celebrating the day until I actually became a mom. In fact, I think there are some very valid reasons why I refused to celebrate Mother's Day until my baby arrived.
Infertility is tough on everyone involved, so while I know everyone's circumstances are different, I'm going to also assume there are some universal feelings all people suffering through infertility can relate to. For some moms-in-waiting, celebrating Mother's Day might feel perfectly OK and, hey, that's great. As with anything, I say you do you. However, for me celebrating Mother's Day before I had a baby in my arms to call my own felt premature and a little unfair. Yes, I wanted to be a mom very, very badly. Yes, it hurt to watch my friends and family get to celebrate, and be celebrated, while I wondered if I would ever become a mom. Still, celebrating Mother's Day for myself and at that time, wasn't going to help me feel better.
Instead, on Mother's Day I tried to celebrate my own mom and my mom friends, tried to protect myself from too much social media that would bum me out, and tried to remind myself how good it would feel to celebrate it when I did become a mom. (Spoiler alert: it felt very, very good.) So, until my daughter came into my life, here are just a few reasons why I refused to celebrate Mother's Day: