I spend an inordinate amount of time thinking about my daughter's ears and their lack of piercings. She's not yet 2 years old and, honestly, I didn't think I'd consider piercing her ears until she was at least 10, like when I got mine done. Then I married a half-black man and adopted a baby of Hispanic and African descent and, as a result, have a whole slew of reasons I'm conflicted about piercing my daughter's ears.
My husband and I had always said we would pierce our daughter's ears as a baby, to honor his father's cultural tradition. Theoretically ear piercing theoretical children, of course, is a much easier decision than really piercing real children. Since we adopted our daughter, whose birth cultures would likely have pierced her ears by the time she was 3 months old, those theoretical conversations and thoughts have become much more real.
My partner and I have gone back and forth about piercing her ears and, honestly, we're still conflicted about what is the right choice for her and for our family. What used to seem like such a no-brainer now has me totally conflicted and, well, I'm a little lost.. All my partner and I know, for sure, is that we won't do a thing to our daughter's ears until we're absolutely certain. So until then, I'll stay conflicted for the these reasons: