One of my favorite times of day is the end of it, when I look over to find my son calmly slumbering away in my bed. It’s not something that happens every night anymore, but when it does I enjoy it. I stare in awe of this beautiful little kid and think, “I made him!” It’s a nice feeling, but it's also one that can be soured by people who think they should have a say in my family's sleeping arrangements. To that I say: Nah. I’m not about to apologize for bed-sharing. Not now, and not ever, and certainly not to the person who will never look at my sleeping son the way I do.
Thankfully, negative comments about bed-sharing aren't really something I hear all that often anymore. When I do, it tends to be a snarky response to a complaint I've decided to make. You know, like when I talk about how my kid was kicking my face all night long. And instead of throwing me a sign of solidarity or some well-mannered empathy, someone decides to tell me that I “did this to myself.” Annoying, sure, but I also know that those people will never understand why anyone bed-shares with their kid. And hey, that’s cool. We all do what works best for our families, right? It’s just that when you try to tell me I’m wrong about something as loving and harmless as bed-sharing, I get a little annoyed.
I know I'm not the only mother in the world who made the decision to bed-share with her child. Which means I know I'm not the only bed-sharing mom who has had to face consistent criticism for this particular parenting choice. Hell, maybe you’ve got a little 6-month-old child you’ve transferred to your bed because babies smell amazing and breastfeeding is easier this way and all the other personal, legitimate reasons for choosing to share a bed with your kid. And if anyone gives you a hard time about it, don’t be afraid to invoke any of these argument and shut them down: