As I’ve gotten older, I’ve become less self-conscious. I think that happens naturally with age, which is too bad, because I could have really used some of that self-confidence as a shy teenager who wore braces all through high school. Once I became a mom, I had so little time to worry about the impression I was making and realized how appealing being self-assured is. So it is ridiculous that society downgrades a woman’s attractiveness after having a kid. Stop pretending that moms aren’t totally hot. Being pregnant and having two healthy babies really cemented the idea that self-confidence is attractive. I mean, there’s a reason why “MILF” is a thing.
I’ve never considered myself attractive, at least by society’s standards. Growing up with images of the ideal female form and face in movies, TV, and ads can do a number on a girl’s body image. But with age, and discovering what I myself found attractive in people instead of adhering to a prescribed ideal, it became clear that being “hot” has less to do with how someone looks than it does with how someone presents themselves through action. Turn-ons include confidence, trust in one’s instincts, and respect for others, which you really only gain through respect for yourself. I display those characteristics more as a mom than I ever did in my single 20s.
There are other things that make moms attractive, unique to the roles they play as parents. Here are some reasons I think moms are totally hot, and why everybody should just shut up about how they’re not: