I always planned on having two kids. Two. That's it. My husband and I joked that we didn't want to be outnumbered, and I honestly wasn't sure I could handle one kid, let alone three or more. I eventually changed my mind, though. I learned that, when it comes to parenting, things rarely go as planned or look the way you expected them to look. Although I've doubted my abilities a time or two, there are signs you can definitely handle three kids that are obvious enough to calm your mind and assuage your fears. You just have to know where to look.
The majority of this aforementioned journey of self-discovery surprisingly had nothing to do with my kids, and everything to do with me. In fact, it specifically had to do with how I viewed my role as a parent. I am certain that there's no way in hell I could've handled three kids as the "helicopter, super-crunchy, trying to be perfect mom" I considered myself to be when I had one child to care for. But the laid back, sort of scrunchy, hot mess mom I am today? She's tough and can handle just about anything.
I also learned that it's best if at least one of your kids is able to do some stuff independently, and way before you have another baby. Having to put multiple kids to bed simultaneously is next to impossible, especially if both of them need to touch you in order to go to sleep. The same goes for feeding them, getting them dressed in the morning, bathing them, and just about everything else you have to do as a parent. Also, at some point, you probably should accept that adding a third (or more) child to the mix means that your life is going to change, again, forever. So, while you will gain an awesome kid, you're probably also going to lose something in return, like a consistent sex life, time to yourself, a clean house, and more than a little sleep.
In the end, I have few regrets about deciding to have another child. Then again, maybe I'm just too tired to really think hard and long about them. Fortunately, it turns out I could definitely handle three kids. Here's how I knew I could, and how you can figure out if three is the perfect number for you, too: