The other day, a met another mom in yoga class. It's hard for me to make new friends, so I was pretty excited. We chatted for a few minutes and I quickly learned our parenting styles couldn't be more different. I have to admit, it I took a serious pause when she spoke of her home births and the benefits of herbal remedies. I wondered if we could still be friends or if yoga class was going to become super awkward. Could we base a friendship on the things every crunchy and silky mom have in common?
I mean, there are only a few parenting-related issues in which I couldn't get over. For example, if a mom decides not to vaccinate, if she spanks their kids, she's bigoted, homophobic, transphobic, or anti-feminist, or if she shame other parents who don't do things her way. Those are non-negotiable when establishing a friendship with another mom. However, I have tons of friends who are way crunchier than I am and all about the "natural" parenting philosophy, while other friends are silky smooth as can be and would much prefer convenience over anything else.
I think it's important to remember that no matter how someone chooses to parent their kids, there are some things even the crunchiest and silkiest moms have in common. Most importantly, they love their kids and want to do the best they can for them. Being a mom is hard AF, and while I have left crunchy parenting behind, and for some very good reasons, and become entirely silky either. I'd like to think that I have something in common with all other moms. At least enough to be friendly with them at morning yoga, anyway. Who knows, maybe if we can form bonds based on what we have in common as moms, maybe we can bridge other gaps in our community, country, and world, too? A mom can dream, can't she?