Society's unfair opinions about women who choose to be child-free are as endless as they are cruel. As a result, and always, I would never want to make my closest friends (or any woman, for that matter) feel uncomfortable about their personal lives, especially when it comes to whether or not they choose to (or can) have kids. Having said that, I have to admit there are some things every mom thinks about her child-free friends, but doesn't say out loud, that have definitely crossed my mind a time or two.
Usually those things are more about me than my child-free friends, and essentially reveal just how much my life has changed since I had a baby and became a mother. It can be hard not to sound judgmental and a bit condescending, though, and especially when I tell my friends just how different my post-baby life is. In fact, I think it's pretty impossible to minimize all the ways in which becoming a parent changed me in every perceivable way. Still, I know that when I express those changes to my child-free friends I can, sometimes, come off as patronizing or rude.
Of course, and it goes without saying, women who are unable to have children, or choose not to have children for a number of very valid reasons, live extremely full, rich, and valuable lives. Having a child doesn't make you some superior being. In fact, it just makes you a tired one. It can, however, also drive a wedge between friends who have gone down a different life path. Which is why, for better or worse, there are just a few things I think about my child-free friends. You just won't catch me saying them out loud.