The media constantly shows us beautiful pregnant women with perfectly round, high baby bumps. I carried high my first pregnancy, and assumed that's how every pregnancy feels. But during my second pregnancy I carried "low" and, well, things were different. I felt miserable, couldn't wear cute maternity clothes, and my body constantly ached in places I never even knew existed. In other words, I needed my husband to do the things every soon-to-be dad should do when their pregnant partner when they're carrying "low."
Pregnancy can be a struggle, and there are struggles only pregnant women who carry "low" truly know. It feels like you have a bowling ball between your legs, which leaves you suffering from full body aches and waddling like giant, uncomfortable duck. My pelvis felt like it would break in half with every step, and my lower back felt like I was carrying an extra 25 pounds. My baby rested on my bladder for months, so I always had to pee. My sex drive was impacted, too, and pregnancy sex required some serious creativity from me and my partner for me to feel good.
Fortunately, I learned firsthand that having a loving partner can make a huge difference. My husband did everything from carrying heavy stuff to learning how to massage my hips, back, and pelvis to relieve my aches and pains. He let me take the lead in the bedroom, and in general, and had no problem with me telling him what I needed to make carrying our baby low a bit less of a struggle. So if you have a pregnant woman in your life, and she happens to be carrying low, take some notes and do the following: