I can only claim partial responsibility for the fights my partner and I had when our son was a newborn. While you might assume my partner shares the rest of the responsibility with me, I’m afraid that’s not the case. He’s actually pretty rational and even-tempered. No, I blame the sleep deprivation. It does crazy things to you, and inspires the majority of the fights couples have when they’re up with a baby all freakin' night long. There’s something about the exhaustion, the tears, and the never-ending darkness that totally messes with your mind. Before you know it, unimportant things seem significant and the important things seem downright life-changing and earth-shattering.
For the record, I wasn't exactly coherent when my sleep was interrupted on a regular basis, courtesy of our brand new baby. Mixing up days, forgetting what I got out of bed to do, having to stop to think (and check notes) to remember when my baby last ate was changed? Yeah, it was all par for the new parent course. However, when I lost almost a whole night of sleep, and my partner and I had an infant relying on us to meet his every need? Well, dear reader, that was a recipe for irrational, emotional explosions.
Of course, not all fights a couple will experience when they're both sleep-deprived are irrational. It's just that, well, mine definitely were. So, with that in mind, here’s a sampling of what topics were part of the melee: