My labor and delivery resulted in the safe arrival of my beautiful baby boy and honestly, for that alone, I'm eternally grateful. I'm grateful to the team of doctors and nurses who made difficult choices and treated me with dignity and respect as I experienced one of the most traumatic but ultimately amazing days of my life. I am grateful to my mom, the best birth coach ever, who helped me get through a 48 hour birth. However, and even though the end result was worth, it there are things about my labor and delivery I would change if I could.
Childbirth can be unpredictable so, more often than not, pregnant women are told that the only thing that matters is a healthy baby. In other words, whatever happens during the labor and delivery process doesn't necessarily matter, as long as mom and baby are OK in the end. But it does matter. Birth experiences can traumatize women for years after their babies enter the world, especially if they felt that their health care providers didn't listen to their wishes or explain interventions clearly.
We have the right to make informed choices about the care we receive when giving birth, but we also need to understand that doctors may need to make decisions quickly; often in emergency situations to ensure the best outcome for all involved. I am hoping that if I have another child it will go a little more to plan and not include the following things about my labor and delivery that I, honestly, wish I could go back and change.