Ah, motherhood. Before becoming a mom, you were a private individual with a life that was, more or less, your own business. Now, your every choice is scrutinized like you’re running for president, especially if you're a mom who has decided to learn how to co-sleep safely. After assessing your birth story (or any other way you may have acquired your small human) and deciding if you feed your child correctly (spoiler: no matter what you do, you won't be doing it "correctly" to someone), people always want to know how the baby is sleeping. This, apparently, is how we distinguish the "good babies" from the "others."
If you’re like me (and you actually answer, answer truthfully and answer with some form of, “Oh, yeah! He sleeps great as long as he’s next to me and can nurse freely at night"), you’re probably familiar with what frequently comes next. It doesn’t matter how much research you quote. It doesn’t matter what pains you’ve taken to make your bed a safe sleep space, or that you haven’t gone to sleep intoxicated since before your positive pregnancy test (sigh!) or that you don’t smoke or that your family is basically the walking embodiment of the safe sleep seven. Nope, chances are you'll encounter at least one person who is absolutely convinced that, even if you aren’t in imminent danger of killing your child, you’re definitely in imminent danger of killing your romantic relationship, or any chance you might have at creating one if you’re single.
Yes, if you’re a co-sleeping mom, or have any plans to become one, you’ll become an expert at answering creepy (and really, judgmental) questions like these, because if there's one thing potentially worse than putting your kid's life in danger it's, as a woman, putting your sex life (presumably) on the back burner. These questions, unfortunately, will assume you're doing both. Oh, society. Sometimes, you can be just the worst.