It's hard out there for an expecting mom. While there are plenty of people around who claim they're "the best" at delivering babies, if you're anything like me, you cringe every time someone says that. 'Deliver' my baby? Are they claiming to be the stork, or am I ordering a pizza instead of birthing a child? Personally, I want someone who does things differently, and so begins the process of finding the perfect practitioner. Fortunately and unfortunately, in many ways picking a midwife is just like dating.
My partner often makes fun of me, because according to him at least, I got way more nervous and invested in picking a midwife (and making mom friends) than he assumes I ever was about picking him. Which is a fair point; I was typically pretty low-key about finding dates, but I put a lot of effort into finding and establishing relationships with the midwives in our group, and I'm way more effusive about my mom-crushes than I typically was about my actual romantic ones.
Still, there are definite overlaps between the two, even for mamas like me who've invested way more in motherhood than we ever did in dating. So, if you're still looking for The One, and you're starting to freak out because of how eerily familiar this whole process feels (or you're just freaking out a lot now, in general, because pregnancy), take heart; you're not imagining things. Picking a midwife is a lot like dating. On the plus side, they often have user reviews you can check beforehand, and you don't have to stress about what to wear every time you meet them. See? It's not that bad, right?