I'm one of those people who totally doesn't notice when people are into me. After a night out, my friends will say things like, "That guy was totally hitting on you," and I, usually, am unaware. I'm completely oblivious to their efforts. It's not just me, though. I am pretty sure part of the problem is that some men are way too low-key when it comes to flirting. While men generally have a reputation of being direct — cheesy compliments, come-on lines, cat-calling — in my experience most men have more subtle ways of hitting on people.
Like, for example, my husband. When we met for the very first time I had no idea if he was into me. Even weeks of talking via the internet didn't give me a clue as to how he felt. Fortunately, after a few minutes of talking, I caught on to his subtle ways of flirting. He seemed genuinely interested in me, listened to me talk, looked at me (in a way that made my face hot, to be honest), and he asked if he could hold my hand and kiss me goodbye. These clues told me that he was attracted to me, and honestly made me want to reciprocate (and way more than complimenting my appearance would have, by the way).
To make things easier for other people who to translate men's looks, words, and gestures, I asked some men I know for answers. Like, how do men subtly flirt, hit on, and otherwise try to woo other people in ways that might just go unnoticed? Here are a few of their tips, tricks, and strategies for making their intentions known, that you may not have picked up on: