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53 Little Sexy Things Long-Term Couples Do That Have Nothing To Do With Sex

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Feeling sexy is empowering and wonderful, and while the word embodies different things to everybody, one thing is certain ― it doesn't have to mean sex. I know, the root word is there, but sexy's informal definition is "exciting; appealing." And when you're in a relationship? That's a huge way to use the word sexy. Because the little sexy things long-term couples do to stay close don't always have to lead to a romp in the bedroom. Sometimes, those sexy little things mean being desirable, interesting, and, yes, exciting and appealing.

Relationships are challenging, so when you find a way to feel closer to your partner, you want to jump on the opportunity, especially if it's a small act that you can integrate into your daily life. With work, family, friends, and the hustle and bustle of life, relationships tend to fall to the bottom of your priority list. And when you try and give it a little oomph and work at it? You're met with articles on proper counseling techniques, conversation topics, and other boring ways to get closer to your partner.

No, you want appeal to bring you two closer, right? You want to feel sexy with your partner, in more ways than one, and you want your relationship to strengthen because of it. You need these 53 little sexy things for long-term couples to do in order to stay close. They may not sound traditionally sexy, but their results are amazing. Not only will both you and your partner feel more desired than ever, but you'll feel more connected and intimate with them ― no sex necessary. (Although sex is always encouraged if you want it.)

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1Cook A Meal Together

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Cooking can be incredibly sexy, and if you don't believe me, grab your partner and get in the kitchen. Feed each other the food as you cook, really let yourself get into the act of chopping and simmering, and spend time together laughing and talking. Plus, you're working together to take care of each other with an awesome meal. What's sexier than that?

Try: Cravings Cookbook, $17.99, Amazon

2Take A Shower Together

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A no-brainer, but a perfectly sexy gesture. Wash your partner's hair, have them soap up your back, and remember that you don't even have to get it on to make this whole experience sexy and intimate. (Because shower sex is not all that fun.)

3Touch Each Other When You Sleep

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My boyfriend is like Ross and Chandler ― he loves to snuggle, but when it's time to sleep, I get the hug and roll treatment. However, we still like to hold hands, have our ankles cross, or touch each other in some way while we're sleeping.

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4Undress Each Other

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Slowly. Savor your partner's touch and get a good look at their sexy body. It's not only empowering for you to have your SO look at you like you're the most beautiful thing in the world, but it's a really romantic, intimate move.

5Hold Hands

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Even if you're just running in the post office for a book of stamps.

6Give Massages

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Without any promise of sex afterwards. Sure, it may lead to that, but massages can be incredibly sensual and sexy without needing to get it on afterwards.

Try: Kama Sutra Massage Oils, $20, Amazon

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7Read Together

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Reading is so sexy, so make it a point to read with your partner. You can read the same book together, or each have your own favorite, but the act of being together while you share in a favorite hobby is seriously sweet.

8Sweat Together

Whether it's the gym or heading out on a hike, get active with your boo.

9Go On "High School" Dates

You know the ones. Driving around for hours, making out in a parking lot, and then picking up milkshakes from the drive-thru.

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10Touch Each Other Often

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I love that every time my boyfriend walks by me, he touches me somewhere. Whether it's a squeeze on my shoulder or a full bear hug doesn't matter. It's sexy, and I love that he literally can't keep his hands off of me.

11Sit Near Each Other

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Some people aren't big cuddlers, and I get that. But you should at least make an effort to be near your partner. When you're both working, still sit next to each other on the couch. If you go out with a group for dinner, sit across from each other or take up the corner of the table.

12Laugh Together

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All the time. Laughter is sexy and so is a great sense of humor.

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13Take Each Other Shopping

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Pick out something for your SO, and let them do the same for you. It's fun, and you'll get a glimpse into what your partner thinks is sexy on you. (AKA, everything.)

14Sext Each Other

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OK, this may have a little bit to do with sex, but it still doesn't have to go that way if you don't want it to. Sexting makes both of you feel good and is a serious turn-on.

15Have A Make-Out Sesh

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Like, a real one. Hands all over each other, in the middle of a movie, on the couch kind of make-out sesh. Do it randomly, like before you head off to work in the morning, or right before you're meeting your parents for dinner. Super sexy, and will brew some serious intimacy between you two.

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16Look At Each Other

Like really look at each other. When your partner's telling you a story, look in their eyes and listen intently. Watch their hands as they use them to describe something to you, or watch the way they walk into a room full of people.

17Miss Each Other

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Go out on a girls' night and encourage your partner to see their friends. Missing each other is good for both of you.

18Talk About Your Goals

What's sexier than ambition? Talk to your SO about your goals all the time. The goals you two have together and the ones you have separately. You'll be able to motivate each other and keep the goals in mind when you're having future conversations.

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19Send Sexy Pictures To Each Other

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And they don't have to be nudes! Your SO might look really sexy when they're working, and maybe you feel sexiest when you're at the gym. Send pictures that make YOU feel good, and I guarantee your partner will love them.

20Feed Each Other

Especially if it's something like ice cream or chocolate. It may not sound it, but I promise you, it can be really sexy.

21Get Handsy On Dates

And I don't just mean in a sexual way. (Although that's fun, too!) Open the door for your SO, let them pull out your chair, feed them with the food off your plate ― no one's suggesting you two have to be joined at the hip, but touching each other and doing things for each other is sexy.

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22Continue To Court Each Other

Always. Until the end of time. If you used to bake your SO brownies when you first started dating, continue the tradition.

23Check Each Other Out

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And make sure your SO sees you checking them out. They'll love it.

24Talk About Fantasies

Sexual ones, and ones that you just like to daydream about, like moving to Alaska.

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25Keep Each Other Motivated

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Remember when I said to talk about goals? Remind your partner of their goals and motivate them to do the best they can.

26Break The Texting Routine

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We can all fall into ruts, even with our texting habits. It's easy to just text good morning, random "how's your day going" texts, and "on my way home" messages. Break the routine with funny GIFs, links to a news story you know they'd love, or simply remind them of how much you love them. Texting is a huge part of our world now, and it's a great way to stay connected to your SO.

27Flirt

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Like, all the time. Never stop flirting with your partner.

Try: Flirt Fearlessly, $14, Amazon

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28Enjoy Each Other's Interests

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My boyfriend is a huge football fan and he managed to get me into it this year. I don't know if he finds it sexy, but I think it is. Just like I would think it's sexy if he decided to write some stand-up comedy with me one day. (Hint hint, babe.) Invite your partner to join in your interests and enjoy their hobbies, too.

29Dance Together

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Even if it's just in the living room to the Top 40 Spotify station on your phone. Dance!

30Netflix & Actually Chill

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Like, pajamas on, blanket wrapped around you kind of chill. And actually watch the show, not your Facebook news feed.

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31Walk Around Half-Naked

You know, to gain your own self confidence and to drive your SO wild.

32Get Ready In Front Of Each Other

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OK, not all of the process is sexy. I don't want anyone watching me pluck my eyebrows, but I do love watching my boyfriend fix his hair or put on a tie.

33Say "I'm Sorry"

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It's always sexy when someone can admit they're wrong and try to fix it, so say these words any time you need to.

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34Compliment Each Other's Personality

Telling your partner they have a great butt is fine, but don't forget to compliment their sense of humor, their work ethic, or the way they act with your child.

35Fall Asleep Together

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As in, go to bed at the same time and actually fall asleep together. It's a really wonderful and sexy way to end the day.

36Write To Each Other

Sometimes our words get muddled when we try to verbalize them, so I've always found that writing helps, especially when you want to say something specific to your love.

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37Don't Let Your Partner Walk All Over You

It's sexy to stand up for yourself, even if it's against your own partner. Your SO will find your independence sexy and the way you handle yourself, even if it's against them.

38Make Each Other Coffee In The Morning

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And just take care of each other in general. It's the most intimate gesture you can do for someone else.

39Touch Each Other In The Car

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Another personal story, but I really love when my boyfriend puts his hand on my knee or holds my hand in the car. Something about it is totally endearing and, yes, sexy.

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40Wear Something You Know Your Partner Loves On You

You should always wear what you want, but if you know your partner digs you in that purple dress, that wear it on a random Monday afternoon. They'll notice the gesture, I'm sure of it.

41Be Nice To Their Friends

You don't have to love them, but you should at least be cordial to them. It shows that you're willing to accept their friends, which means accepting them on some level, too.

42Be Spontaneous

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Grab their hand and take them out for ice cream. Tell them to be ready at 7:00 a.m. so you can pick them up for breakfast. Spontaneity often gets lost in the routine of life, but it's always sexy and easy to pick back up.

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43Leave Notes Around The House

Post-its in your partner's car or one on the bathroom mirror to tell them that they're going to nail their presentation at work? Ugh. So sexy. I love it.

44Do A Random Act Of Kindness Together

Nothing brings you closer to your partner than doing good together. Split a mom's bill at the grocery store or spend your Sunday volunteering at an animal shelter. You'll find your partner irresistibly sexy as they act selflessly, and you'll be doing the world some good, too.

45Learn Something New Together

Even if it's not an actual thing to do, you can still learn something together. Catch a documentary or check out a book from the library on a topic you're both interested in. Learning is sexy!

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46Do Something Unexpected For Your Partner Without Conditions

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Like cleaning out their car or refilling their gas tank.

47Kiss Each Other All The Time

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Seriously. In public, at church, before you leave for work, while you're doing dishes ― kiss each other often.

48Act Silly Together

Build a fort out of your bed sheets or play wiffle ball in the rain. When you let your inhibitions down and are silly for the sake of being silly together, you'll be amazed at how your relationship strengthens.

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49Say "Thank You"

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Even if it's for something as simple as your partner handing you the milk from the fridge, say "thank you."

50Pick Up Their Favorite Things At The Store

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I absolutely abhor Fritos, but I know my boyfriend loves them, so I'm willing to pick up a bag for him when I stop at a store. (Now, I don't know if he's allowed to eat them in the house yet or not, but I digress.) It shows sincere appreciation for your SO and that you're always thinking of them, even in trivial matters like groceries.

51Have Healthy Fighting Habits

Like don't use your SO's insecurities to win a fight, and don't let your emotions get the best of you. Fights are going to happen, but they should be clean and healthy.

Try: Fight Fair: Winning at Conflict Without Losing at Love, $13, Amazon

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52Have Technology-Free Nights

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No phones, no TV, no computers ― just you and your partner enjoying the evening together.

53Say "I Love You" Every Time You Want To

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You know those moments where you feel the words bubbling up inside you and you want to say them, but your partner's busy on the phone or watching TV? Say them anyway. Write them down, sign them out, text them ― when you feel the urge to tell your partner you love them, just do it.

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