As a sex-positive person, I'm pretty open about sex and the sex I'm having and what I like about sex and even the number of people I've had sex with. I think sex is pretty awesome (duh) and as long as it's safe and consensual and respectful, it's nothing to be ashamed of. I'm not, however, that big of a fan of dirty talk. Now when I'm having sex, anyway. So, because it's not necessarily "my thing," I'm all for exploring the reasons it's totally fine to hate dirty talk. Validation, anyone?
Of course, different strokes for different folks and what turns one person off can definitely end up turning someone else on. Honestly, I think that's one of the best aspects of being a sexual human being; you get to explore what you like, try new things, try new partners and learn from different people. So, as someone who has had had multiple sexual partners, I have experienced different kinds of sex. What have I learned? Well, among other things, while dirty talk can be totally hot and a very big turn on, it can also be kind of the worst. When I spend all day talking with multiple people and just want to share some sexy silence with another human being, dirty talk gets me out of the mood faster than the Seattle Seahawks losing the Super Bowl in the final minutes of the game.
in the end, you like what you like and there's no reason to be ashamed about it. Some people like talking when they're getting it on; some don't. Both are normal and both aren't shameful and as long as you're having safe and consensual sex, I say you're doing sex right. So, with that in mind, here are just a few reasons why it's completely OK to say "no" to dirty talk.