As moms, I think we can fall into the trap of believing we have to do it all on our own. We think we have to power through the never-ending to-do list and achieve "super mom status" by our strength alone. This perfectly described me for the first half of my daughter's life: afraid to ask for help. However, at some point, when she had been in the world for about six months, I realized there are things moms should never feel afraid to ask for, period.
We adopted our daughter, so some of the pressure I felt was a result of feeling the need to compensate for not having given birth to her. Because I didn't do the birth part, I felt I needed to be "extra super mom" just to prove that I was a "good mom." Turns out, most of us need to just chill out and give ourselves a little extra grace and understanding and room to learn and grow and, you guessed it, even make mistakes. Moms aren't designed to operate in a bubble and it truly does take a village to raise a kid. It's not because moms aren't strong enough or capable enough, either. Moms need back up simply because raising a child is tough stuff and sometimes a mom just needs a break in order to return as her best self.
After several months, I realized I just wasn't going to make it if I didn't ask for the following things, and I can report back that it made all the difference in my sanity and energy in our daughter's first year of life.