When you have a baby, people tend to talk about postpartum sex like it's a necessary evil. If you ask your OB-GYN or read books or articles about what to expect when you finally have post-childbirth sex, you'll probably learn you should wait at least six weeks, use lube, and avoid freaking out if it's not awesome. As much as we talk about postpartum sex, though, almost nobody's talking about postpartum orgasms. Except me, that is. Why me? Well, because there are so many things people don't say about your first postpartum orgasm, and I think it's time someone, anyone, set the record straight.
I am not ashamed to admit how much I love sex. And it's only got better since I had my last baby. I feel like our culture has got to get over the bullsh*t idea that moms aren't or shouldn't be sexy. The fact is, many moms have great sex, and having great sex and being sexy don't have to stop when you have babies. I mean, yes, sex is totally different now, and less frequent than it used to be when I didn't have children to care for. And, yes, postpartum orgasms are different, too. It took some time, and some taking matters into my own hands, to feel comfortable "getting off," but once I came for the first time postpartum it was amazing. And it took finally being able to orgasm for me to realize that I want and need totally different kinds of stimulation, positions, and activities to finish, especially now that my body has gone through something as traumatic and incredible as childbirth.
Awesome postpartum orgasms are totally a thing, and something we, as parents and a society that claims to value parents, have got to start talking about. So if you are postpartum and in the mood to experiment, break out your vibrator or find a willing partner. You might just find yourself, like me, surprised in the following ways: