Mom-shaming is bad enough, but when parenting is mansplained to me? Yeah, that's when my head is in danger of exploding. Thankfully it hasn't happened too often that I am worrying about the status of my head on a regular basis. Make no mistake, though, all the ways people have tried to mansplain parenting to me still drive me nuts.
Mansplaining, in case you've been living without internet the past five years, is the often inappropriate, always annoying practice when a man condescendingly explains something — as though he's an expert — to a woman who generally knows more about the given topic. Since Rebecca Solnit explained the concept in her 2008 article "Men Explain Things To Me," it has sometimes been used to describe any privileged person explaining, with an undeserved air of authority , something to a person with a marginalized identity who actually knows more about the topic. Enter all parents everywhere being mansplained on parenting by child-free people.
It's no surprise, of course, that parenting is hard AF. What parents need is support (and wine), not lazy know-it-alls, who won't babysit for us BTW, telling us how to get our children to behave, sleep, do their homework, eat their food, take a bath, or, well, pretty much anything else they have no practical experience with. Some of them are hilarious in their wrong-headedness, and some of them are down right insulting, but either way: all the ways people have tried to mansplain parenting to me serve as a reminder that, sometimes, the best thing to say is nothing at all.