Even the happiest couples can clash during pregnancy. There’s the hormonal-induced misunderstandings, the pressure created by a looming due date, and seemingly endless appointments and questions and research. And when you’re experiencing a high-risk pregnancy, your relationship can experience an even more intense strain. With all the stress and fear involved, it’s no wonder there are specific fights every couple has when a pregnancy is high-risk. But don’t worry, those "fights" aren't all bad and can, in certain situations, even be beneficial.
I speak from personal experience, too. After losing my first baby to prematurity, I never thought I’d get pregnant again, let alone so soon. But less than a year later, I missed my period and boom: pregnant. My partner and I were terrified, of course. Neither of us had even really started to heal from our grief. In fact, the doctors couldn't even tell us, for sure, why we lost our daughter. So we did our best to keep our cool throughout the pregnancy, but sometimes those unavoidable tensions still won out.
Before my partner and I knew it, we were navigating a snarky remark here and a forgotten appointment there. Our relationship also started to lack intimacy, which made the tension seem even more unavoidable. It was rough, to be sure, but we made it through and, now, we have a wonderful soon-to-be 4-year-old son to show for it. So if you’re worried about what your high-risk pregnancy might mean for your relationship, have no fear. You’ll probably disagree with your partner more than a few times, and those disagreements might turn into arguments, but it's all pretty standard. And, hopefully, temporary.