"Someday you'll look back and miss this" is just about the worst thing you could say to a struggling mom. A mother who's had enough needs empathy and encouragement, and she feels guilty enough without anyone insinuating that she should appreciate this time because "it goes by so quickly." That's not the way to answer a cry for help from an overwhelmed mother. There are plenty of things you can say to the mom who feels like quitting, however, that are supportive and sympathetic. I know, because sometimes I want to give up, too.
I'm having one of those weeks. The kind where unloading the dishwasher feels like too much and I'm just hanging on for dear life until bedtime. At seven months pregnant, I'm exhausted and uncomfortable. My toddler is currently punishing me (at least it feels that way) for leaving her at hourly care so I could attend a training. My husband's new job has him working horrendous hours, so he's gone before I wake up and home after I've gone to sleep. In other words, I need help. As I sit in a semi-catatonic state on the couch with a tantrum-throwing child at my feet, all I can think is, "How am I ever going to manage two?"
When a mom confides in you that she's just so done, it might be tempting to say, "You can't quit." Don't. We know we can't really throw in the towel, but we need to have our feelings validated and our hardships acknowledged. This is what we need to hear: