Life is full of compromise. Without some sort of flexibility, the everyday may seem impossible to navigate. So, we compromise with our parents, with our kids, with our employers, and with our friends. We definitely compromise in our romantic relationships, too. But when two people come together, from completely different paths of life and bringing with them their own pasts and their own visions of the future, compromise becomes more difficult. Yes, some compromise may sometimes be necessary, but there are certain things you shouldn't compromise on in your relationship. Sometimes, compromise isn't the answer.
If you and your partner have kids, the compromises become more frequent. You may find yourself constantly yielding to each other due to lack of energy or because of an understandable desire to keep the peace in the house. There are more than a few parents, however, in happy relationships because they honestly don't compromise that much. In fact, a relationship is best when people learn to respect each other's stances rather than forcing each other to concede to one point of view. We should never lower our standards and cave into something we aren't thrilled with or believe in. That benefits no one.
Sure, compromising works on small, somewhat insignificant things. If you want a cheeseburger for dinner and your partner wants a salad, maybe you can choose a place that serves both. Or, if you want to see a comedy and your partner wants to see a horror flick, you can pick two days and see each one. That's called compromise. The bigger things, though, like parenting and core values, should not be compromised. Sometimes, one person conceding the point and losing out on key parenting decisions only leads to resentment and a feeling of inadequacy. No matter what your relationship is like, you should not compromise on: