My partner was, for the most part, amazingly supportive during my pregnancy. He brought me pretty much any food I craved, tried to make me feel good about my changing body, and didn't get in the way of me calling the shots when it came to my health, my body, and my pregnancy. Sometimes, though, my partner accidentally made my pregnancy anxiety worse.
Some anxiety is normal in pregnancy. Between fluctuating hormones, and the millions of questions and concerns you have about your pregnancy and how it's progressing, feeling anxious is par for the course. But the kind of intense, non-stop anxiety I had was seriously affecting my life and, as it turns out, wasn't typical. Fortunately, I was able to get treatment for my pregnancy anxiety. Unfortunately, I didn't seek out or receive that treatment until things got really bad, and my partner didn't help the situation.
I know my partner wasn't purposefully trying to make things worse, so I don't blame him for exacerbating my anxiety. But some of his comments, questions, and even actions would make me worry or stress out unnecessarily. As someone who has had anxiety most of my adult life, I knew these intrusive thoughts were not based in reality, but that knowledge didn't make me feel any better. When he would catch me off guard or add to my already huge list of concerns about my pregnancy, I was at the mercy of my anxiety. For example, when my partner asked my OB-GYN for clarification about something she said during an appointment, I panicked and assumed I missed something important. And when he asked me “are you sure?” after I had already made a decision, I was left questioning myself and whether or not I had made the best choice.
Eventually I got my pregnancy anxiety under control, but not before my husband accidentally made it so much worse by doing the following things: