Many women dream of having a girl so they can dress her up in beautiful dresses and adorn her in princess gowns, tiaras, and headbands. They cannot wait to purchase the sparkly shoes, the iridescent earrings, and the fluffy tutus. There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of it, to be sure, but there are certain things you don't have to do when you dress your daughter, too. One of those things is conform to gender stereotypes. Yes, you can dress your daughter in dresses to your heart's content, but make sure to offer other alternatives and to remind her that she can wear anything she wants.
When my daughter was first born, there weren't nearly as many gender neutral choices for clothing as there are now. Most clothing departments were heavily stereotypical. "Girl" departments were pink and "boy" departments were blue. I remember trying to find a black turtleneck for a costume and I was only able to find one in the boy's department. I've been wearing black since I can remember, so like, why can't my daughter? Colors like greens, deep blues, browns, oranges were nowhere near the girl's section; they were mostly reserved for boys.
Sure, girls have numerous options in that they can wear pants and skirts without being ridiculed. But just because those options are there, doesn't mean parents are utilizing them. Many parents still stick to clothing that clearly identifies gender and it's just not necessary. Let your kid choose what she wants to wear and, as long as it's appropriate for the season, let her wear it. Girls should know that, contrary to popular belief, it's not the clothes that make the person. Girls should know that they can wear anything they wish, no matter the color, the style, or the way others might possibly perceive them. So, with that in mind and because we should all be teaching our daughter's that their options are limitless, here's what you absolutely do not have to do when you get your daughter ready for the day: