So many thoughts go through your head when you realize your marriage is failing, especially when you have kids. If I leave, will it completely mess my children up? Should we stay together, even though we're miserable? Will I suck as a single parent? Fortunately, once the dust settled and I figured some things out, I realized life does, in fact, go on. In fact, in many ways my divorce made me a better mom, so while those initial fears were valid, they also weren't necessary.
Now, I'm not saying getting divorced was easy or that I didn't have moments when I royally messed up as a parent. In fact, more than a few times I totally wanted to throw in the towel, it's just that single parents don't have that luxury. Eventually, though, I realized that I was going to be OK, and my kids were, too. In fact, I actually learned quite a few parenting skills by leaving my partner, going through a divorce, and picking up the pieces afterwards.
Plus, I'm so much happier now. You have no idea. I think this happier me — a version of me who is free to parent my kids the way I think is best — is better able to help my kids to weather the change that comes with divorce. It's taken some time and experience to get there, but I am good and so are my kids. I've learned that not only does leaving your partner not make you a bad parent, it can actually make you a better one, and here's why: