As I was scrolling through Facebook the other day, I saw a post from Mindy Kahling that seemed to be directed at me. She posted pictures of herself looking amazing in bikinis and wrote, "IDK who needs to hear this but… WEAR A BIKINI IF YOU WANT TO WEAR A BIKINI. You don’t have to be a size 0. Have a great summer."
She was talking about me. I needed to hear that when I was staring at my bikini-clad body in my bathroom mirror, wondering if my mom bod was bikini ready. While I consider myself to be a confident person, generally, my body in a bikini is an exception. Being in a 2-piece makes me feel like that anxious, insecure teenager all over again; the one hiding under an over-sized t-shirt, deathly afraid of what people might say or think.
I've struggled with body issues since I was a child, and am in active recovery from an eating disorder, so it’s been hard to see my body change as the result of pregnancy, labor, delivery, and, you know, just time. But after nearly 41 years on the planet, and three pregnancies, my body will never be a size 0 again, my breasts will never be the same size, and my belly and thighs will never be scar- and stretch mark-free.
But, you guys: it’s hot AF outside. And my kids want to hit the pool! So, honestly, I’ll be damned if I’m going to let societal ideals about what a so-called bikini body should look like prevent me from wearing a cute 2-piece this summer. It hasn't been easy to get to this place, especially since I'm having to unlearn a lot of problematic and downright destructive messaging about what constitutes a "bikini body" and what is "attractive," but these days you can absolutely find me lounging around my backyard in a bikini.
My body is ready for that 2-piece, and so is yours, no matter what other people might think or say about it. But if you're not convinced just yet, here are a few signs your mom bod is ready to rock that bikini: