There's this strange and contradictory routine that us moms are expected to follow after childbirth. We're supposed to lose the "baby weight" instantly, but we should also complain to other moms about how much we hate our bodies. Those moms are supposed to tell us how awesome we look, then we're supposed to magically love our bodies again. Well, clearly I'm totally doing it wrong. Honestly, though, I don't care. You see, I don't have to love my postpartum body. I just don't.
I really and truly don't know what's worse: being expected to "bounce back" after childbirth, or being told how I should feel about my own damn body. Neither one is particularly ideal. I mean, my body is different. It doesn't look right, doesn't work right, and quite frankly, I am more than a little pissed off at it right now. Yes, I know I just grew a human and that's amazing, but I can think childbirth is amazing andnot love the body that did that amazing thing. The two are not mutually exclusive. You might be shocked to learn that how my body looks is not the most important thing about me, despite society telling the exact opposite every single day. I am so much more than the changing, imperfect body in which I reside, which means I don't always have to love it in order to love myself.
So I don't have to be "body positive" about my body right now, or any time, really. Honestly, I am shooting for "body OK." That's really all I can do at the moment, and sometimes being kind to myself means allowing my honest feelings about my postpartum body to be enough. So if you see me (or anyone) days, weeks, months, or even years after having a baby, can we please deviate from the aforementioned bullsh*t routine and, instead, talk about our kids, politics, or pretty much anything other than how a woman's postpartum body looks? Including how you think she should feel about it? Great, so with that in mind and now that we have an understanding, here are just a few reasons why I don't have to love my post-baby body right now: