I give mad props to my partner during both my pregnancies, especially the second one. When I hit the fourth month, my whole attitude changed. I was constantly angry, and I was having trouble finding the joy in motherhood with our willful 2-year-old daughter, a full-time job, and very few clothes that fit. It just felt like a lot, and my husband rode the tide of my varying emotions like a sport. Still, he wasn’t immune from my intermittent wrath. There are things every pregnant woman wishes she could say to her partner, even if he isn’t doing anything wrong. But we don’t voice these complaints because, well, relationships.
Frequent, clear communication in a partnership is vital. I know this, but I don’t always practice it. We mess up a lot because we’re human, and because it’s exhausting to talk things out all the time. Most of my frustration with my husband stems from being illogically annoyed that he can’t just read my mind. However, during those prickly periods of my pregnancy, it was probably a very good thing he couldn’t read my thoughts. Because some of them, like the ones below, could have definitely called the strength of our relationship into question.
I have perspective now, and that perspective has allowed me to see the ridiculousness of these thoughts. But at the time, when I was just so fed up with pregnancy and all the obstacles it presented, I felt totally legitimate to think these things: