Dating after as a single parent was super scary. Thanks to my abusive ex-husband, I had a low self-esteem and hadn't been on a first date in over 13 years. On top of that, new single parents have to figure some serious sh*t out. Being a single mom is the hardest thing I've ever done. It wasn't easy to find time to eat and sleep, let alone to eat and sleep with someone else. There's a few things I think single mom should do before she starts dating again, to reclaim her identity and learn to love herself, before adding another person to the mix. Things like learning who she is, learning how to love herself, and learning what she wants in a partner and a relationship. Also, how to get through the day as a single mom, how to find time for herself, and who can help when she needs it.
When I first started dating, I was shocked at how different it was dating as a previously married, thirty-something with two kids, than it was dating as a single, free twenty-something. When I had dated previously, online dating sites didn't exist. (I know. I'm old AF.) But, how in the heck does a busy, working, single mom meet people? I am not ashamed to say that I met my now-husband (also a divorced, single parent) online. We were able to "match" our needs with a potential partner who met our criteria, and had an opportunity to get to know each other online and via text, before taking the leap in real life.
But, before all of that, I seriously needed to get my head on straight and learn how to be a badass single mom before I could be a badass, single, dating mom. Here are a few things I prioritized.