10 Things You Don't Have To Do When Attachment Parenting, Even Though Everyone Says You Do
byKristi Pahr
Parenting styles are usually pretty polarizing topics. No one wants to think they are parenting incorrectly or the "wrong way," but there are so many ways to parent (because people, circumstances, and children are different) that there simply isn't a "right way." It really and truly doesn't exist. Attachment parenting, for example, draws a lot of fire and criticism, so it should come as no surprise that there are plenty of things you don't have to do when attachment parenting, even though everyone says you do.
When I was pregnant with my now 4-year-old, I had my nose buried in parenting and pregnancy books. To my surprise, they all freaked me out. I was not satisfied with the answers I was finding or what my extensive reading and research was suggesting. Nothing seemed right to me or sounded like it would fit my life or my family's life, until I read about attachment parenting. I had never heard of this specific method before, but by the time I finished that book I knew my specific questions were answered and the source of my anxiety had disappeared. The recommendations and practices advocated via attachment parenting just made sense to me and resonated with me. From that moment I was an avowed attachment parent and while it hasn't always been easy, it's always been right for my family.
Attachment parenting can seem overwhelming or scary or hard from the outside, but like everything else, you take what works for your unique situation and leave the rest. So, if you're responding to your baby's cues and needs with love and empathy, you're an attachment parent. While that might mean certain things to certain people — and it might open you up to some criticism because hello judgment — you can make attachment parenting work for you and your unique family by doing what you need to do, and choosing not to do the following: