For me, and most parents, sex is way different after having kids. Those differences, however, are pretty surprising. My sex life is way better. No, really. It's less awkward, more intimate, and way more personal. Plus, when I fantasize about sex, my fantasies are way different. As as result, I've been so surprised at the ways my sexual fantasies changed after kids. It makes sense, though. I have pretty much always loved sex (no slut shaming, please), but now I (and my husband) sometimes have other priorities, which is completely normal when you're raising tiny humans.
For the longest time after having babies, sex was not great at all and definitely not something I fantasized about. I felt ashamed about my body, nervous about pain or not being able to orgasm, and worried about what my partner thought about the ways my body had changed. I tried a lot of different things to get my groove back, including but definitely not limited to spending time fantasizing about nights when we wouldn't have sex or imagining that I would encounter a celebrity who would fall madly in lust with me and whisk me away from my life.
I am going to give birth to our first child together in a few weeks. To be honest, I am a little scared about how that might impact our sex life. Thankfully, we trust each other enough to share our deepest fantasies and to laugh when things don't go as planned. #ParentingProblems