I often find that people who have never been a stay-at-home parent have very "interesting" ideas of what their lives would look like if they were. I find this is especially true of those who work outside of the home and daydream (if only occasionally) about what life would be like if they didn't leave for work every day. Like most daydreams, they're completely unrealistic. Still, when one's own partner doesn't conform to their presumption, things can get a little tense. But guys: there are questions no dad should ask his stay-at-home partner at the end of the day. (And I'm going to talk specifically to dads here because, I'll be honest: most of the complaints I'm hearing are about y'all.)
Before we go on, I feel the need to defend my own partner's honor here: I've never once heard anything from the list below escape his lips. You see, before I left my office job, my husband was actually a stay-at-home dad with our oldest son for two years. So when I began staying home with the kids while he went to an office, he knew what I was in for. As such, he comes home to our family every evening with an intimate knowledge of just how hellish a day can be without it actually seeming all that bad on paper. When I say, "They were a pair of monsters all day," he doesn't just imagine how bad that must be, only to have his imagination fail him. He knows how bad it isto deal with two monster babies for hours on end and on your own. Moreover, he knows the cumulative effect this has on one's psyche after doing it day in and day out.
However, many parents who have never stayed at home with children before, unfortunately, just don't get it. To you blokes, I say: be better. Dig to whatever depths you need within your soul to find some compassion. In the meantime, completely avoid asking your partner the following questions at the end of your day: