Being a progressive mom means a number of things. It means making choices that take into account things like gender and race, class and ability. It means doing your best to raise a feminist child (or children) and making sure your little one understands everything from privilege to activism to social justice. Then, when you’re a parent in a relationship, it also means approaching your partnership in a way that recognizes old patriarchal standards and facilitating open conversations about what you want rather than what’s “expected” of you as both parents and partners. It also means that there are certain things progressive moms simply won’t say to their partners. Things that might be hurtful or reinforcing stereotypes 0r going against the aforementioned principles ever progressive parent believes in.
I know that one reason my own marriage works is because we don’t pigeonhole ourselves into following certain “roles” as husband and wife. Both of us watch our son frequently. We both feed him and bathe him and play with him. My husband never makes me feel anything other than encouraged when it comes to my work. He’s never demanded a home-cooked meal or expected me to iron his shirts (maybe because he knows I’d laugh and laugh, but also because he doesn’t care about those things and doesn't cater to ridiculously sexist and gendered stereotypes).
Of course, because we are progressive parents we also believe that the road does, in fact, go both ways. Just like there are certain things he should never say or expect of me, I know there are many things that, as a progressive, I wouldn’t say to him, either.