I've never been a free range or a helicopter parent. Instead, I fall somewhere in the middle and am something of a "gentle child herder." Rather than try to control what my kids do, I create boundaries with love and redirection and teach them how and why I want them to do things, instead of saying, "Because I said so." In my opinion, one of the most important skills I can teach my kids is how to ask for and give consent, which is really freaking hard to do when people violate your kids' consent every day.
I honestly don't think most people are consciously trying to harm our kids. Rather, I think that our culture sometimes teaches adults that we have a right to control what kids do, and I don't think that's OK at all. My children are not my possessions and their bodies belong to them, not me (or anyone else). I believe their right to bodily autonomy is way more important that what I (or anyone else) wants them to do, unless that thing is taking medicine, putting on a seat belt, or brushing their teeth. That means I don't make them give grandma a kiss, get a hair cut, or even eat foods they hate. So, it really pisses me off that other people try to make them do these things every day.
I want my kids to know that they control what happens to their bodies and to understand concepts like consent and personal boundaries. That means, in our house, we show physical affection only when the other party consents. For us, no means no, even for small things like tickling and being picked up. I would honestly prefer if people just wouldn't touch my kids, period.