A common fear among most first-time moms-to-be is an overhaul of one's personality. Your likes and dislikes can completely change as you adjust to your new parenting role, so an identity crisis of sorts isn't completely unheard of. However, I can almost guarantee you'll get back to your old self fairly quickly. One thing that may never be the same again, however, is the scenarios and thoughts that turn you on. So, I asked moms to share the one sexual fantasy they had before having kids that totally freaks them out now. To my surprise (read: delight) I got some really surprising, and by "surprising" I mean "kinky," answers.
For me and my post-baby self, my idea of a wild fantasy that would leave me totally satisfied, is a long leisurely lie in, followed by an uninterrupted breakfast that I didn't have to share, a soak in a hot bath, a little shopping, not changing any diapers and then maybe a nap. That's my dream and, as vanilla as it is, it still sounds heavenly to me.
Becoming a mom shouldn't really change you completely. After all, moms — like any other human being — still deserve and should expect fulfilling, pleasurable sex lives once they become parents. Still, it's totally normal if some of your pre-baby fantasies make you feel a little icky now, including some of the following: