It's, admittedly, a somewhat small number of people who contemplate what having sex as a single mom is like before they have a kid, since most people don't plan on being a single parent at all. Yes, some wildly brave souls consciously choose to set out to do the mom thing on their own, but for the most part, most of us think we're going to be doing the child-rearing thing and the sex-having thing with the same person. Planning to bring a new child into your family doesn't historically include contemplating notions of what your sex life will look like if you suddenly find yourself both "single" and a "mom" — these are two identities whose lifestyles don't have a lot of overlap in terms of how we're socially trained to regard them.
But as it turns out, life is an unpredictable, stunning, fantastic hellscape wherein you routinely find yourself in places you never expected, and single moms exist. And they have sex. What's more surprising than the fact that single moms exist and have sex is that a great many of them truly love being single parents, and the sex that a lot of them are having is legit the best they've ever had.
And I don't mean "we're having the best sex ever" in a "let's lie to ourselves and say this is the best sex of our lives because those lives are now a ceaseless series of compromises that occasionally give us deeply divided feelings about our decision to have kids in the first place, and frankly, we need to believe this" kind of way. I mean, single moms are having the best sex of their lives in a "my 22-year-old, childless vagina had no idea it could be like this" way that everyone else should be jealous of. Here's why: