My partner is a one-of-a-kind human. It's one of the many reasons I fell in love with him years ago. One of the things that makes him unique is he doesn't really own an internal censor. That is great for honesty in a relationship (which, as a trauma survivor, is essential for me) but it also creates moments when he doesn't realize his foot is in his mouth. So feel free to let my experience be your preparation for the infuriatingthings your partner will accidentally say when you're in labor.
Some people might get frustrated by compulsive honesty. Admittedly, it does cause a few hiccups when things come out of my partner's mouth that might be better left unsaid. But, especially at the beginning of our relationship, this no-holds-barred honesty was vital. I knew that he is nearly incapable of lying because he says whatever is on his mind. As someone with a long history of experiencing gaslighting and emotional abuse and manipulation in relationships, I love that clarity more than just about anything else. Hell, I even love the hilarious stories that come out of his perpetual, inopportune commentary.
All of that love and gratitude, however, doesn't take away the infuriating factor when it comes to the things he said that he totally didn't mean to be offensive during my labor. You know, things like the following: