I'll admit that my motherly instincts didn’t always feel instinctual. In fact, they felt more like a combination of nature, trial and error, desperation, and love. Thankfully, I had some key resources to lean on, like my partner, my friends, a lactation consultant, my own mom, and even my phone’s alarm clock. Some of these helpers were more present than others at various newborn stages, but all of them played an important role at times, especially the alarm clock. I learned firsthand why new moms love to hate their alarm clocks.
Of course, as far as instincts went, I always wanted to meet my baby’s needs and dry his tears and comfort him in whatever way he needed comfort. I just didn’t always know how. The alarm clock gave me some clear reminders, though. I used it to help track feedings, including the amount of time in between them, the amount of time spent doing them, and even the amount of time my son nursed on each side. I used it to wake myself up from the most gut-wrenchingly short naps. I used it to wake up from the, like, seven minutes of overnight sleep I’d get.
Still, and despite how crucial it was for as a new mom, my relationship with that stupid app never progressed past “frenemies.” Here’s why: