In my opinion, giving birth isn't a spectator sport. Instead, it's a team effort and every laboring woman should have a supportive partner or person by her side, ready and willing to help as necessary. While that partner doesn't have to be a cisgender male of the romantic variety, they often are and, sadly, gender norms have let these men off the proverbial hook. Well, I say no more. There are things every grown-ass dad intuitively does during labor, because this isn't the 1950s... and because duh.
My partner was, for the most part, engaged during each of my two labor and deliveries, but there were more than a few moments when he missed the mark. For example, when I was in labor for three days with my daughter, my partner did countless things to provide comfort and support. But he also played games on his phone and left me alone so he could "take a break." Guess who couldn't take a break, buddy? Yeah, that would be me: the person pushing another person out of her body.
You'd think my partner would have learned his lesson by the time I gave birth to my son, but that wasn't necessarily the case. He still napped rather regularly, still focused on his phone, and still needed to take "breaks." While I would still consider him to be a very supportive partner during labor and delivery, it's hard to overlook the moments when he faltered. So with that in mind, and because every woman deserves as much support as she needs and wants, here's what every grown-ass man instinctually does when his partner is in labor: