Even the greatest mother/daughter relationship can go a little south once the daughter becomes a mother, too. After all, our mothers are our mothers. Eventually our own children will grow up and it'll hard to let go of the dynamic in which we were teachers and our children were students. So, honestly, you can't be all that surprised by the passive aggressive things your own mom will say once you become a mother yourself. The trick to navigating this new dynamic, for better or for worse, is in how you respond.
I love my mother to pieces. I sincerely do. She’s always been there for me when I needed her and, well, also when I didn't. She’s listened and given advice, even though I haven't always necessarily asked for it. She has a kind heart and a generous soul and I wouldn’t trade her for anything in the world.
Having said that (and having sufficiently covered all my bases) my darling mother is not without her faults. For example, she knows exactly how to make me feel incredibly guilty and usually in this, admittedly rather impressive, passive aggressive manner. I’ve learned most if not all of the tricks that help me respond to her quips, though, and I can tell you more or less how I handle them. Well, sort of. Relationships are hard, you guys.