I am, and always will be, grateful for the father of my two children. I grew up with a toxic, hurtful dad, so to watch my two sons and my wonderful partner interact in the loving and adorable ways they do makes me feel so incredibly thankful. We've been together for six years and, every single year, I'm reminded of just how lucky we all are to have him in our lives. But even the best men among us can... falter. In fact, there are signs your partner is a low-key do nothing parent, even if, from the outside looking in, he appears to be the most engaged father on the block.
Dads navigate a very, shall we say, peculiar space in the parenting sphere. On the one hand, they're praised for every single thing they do that's even remotely parenting related, and on the other hand our culture treats them as these completely inept parents, innately incapable of caring for children. Neither approach, of course, is helping. On the whole, dads are just as capable of taking care of children as mothers, and because they're just as capable they shouldn't need a damn ticker tape parade any time they change a diaper or put a baby to bed.
But because the dads in our lives are treated in such an infantilizing and simultaneously celebratory way, it can be difficult to tell if your partner is really pulling his weight. Thankfully, there are a few subtle signs that will let you know that even if your partner is enthused and engaged and seemingly on the ball, they could step their dad game up a notch or two: