If you're like me, you've probably always thought of yourself as someone who's "considerate." For example, you'll eat tacos because your friend wants tacos even though you really want pizza. You're basically an exemplary beacon of selflessness. But then you become a parent and realize that your pre-kid life naturally lent itself to selfishness. That's not an inherently bad thing, but it is largely a thing that's over when you have a baby. That's why, my newfound friend, you need to relish the times during your pregnancy when other people's feelings won't mean sh*t. Bask in them. Celebrate them. Seek them out if necessary, because babies are needy and trash at managing those needs, so if you don't prioritize their needs over your own sometimes, they literally won't survive.
When you're baking a human life inside your body, you should feel extremely free to put your needs above everyone else's. (Well, I guess if your "needs" involve downing two bottles of wine, then maybe you should still put your baby's needs first, but that's honestly the extent of the selflessness you should feel obligated to roll out while pregnant.) Maybe you were always someone who genuinely goes out of the way to consider other people's needs and feelings, though, as opposed to doing so in the very superficial way I joked about earlier. That was me. I was superficially considerate. So becoming a mom and transitioning to being earnestly aware of someone else's needs and having that legitimately inform my actions? Yeah, that was kinda new.
But while I was pregnant? Being selfish? Throwing everyone else's feelings on the back burner the minute they stood between me and something my pregnant ass needed? I'd spent a lifetime preparing for it, and I killed it. So, if you're pregnant and not as much of a naturally horrible person as I am, just follow my lead. Here are a few times during my pregnancy when I didn't let other people's feelings rule the day — and I've never felt sorry about any of it since.