Being in labor is serious business. Those of us who've been through it know exactly how serious, too. Everyone else on the sidelines? Well, they can try to be sympathetic and try to understand, but all they can really do is be helpful and supportive. Our partners, try as they might, can’t do much for us once we get to a certain point in labor. But what they can do is make sure they don’t ask ridiculous questions while we’re in labor, so we don’t have to spend any of our time, energy, or attention contemplating how to hurt them once we've managed to bring a child into the world.
Honestly, dads should know most (if not all) of the answers to these simple questions. They can, of course, ask you ahead of time, prior to your water breaking or your induction or your horrible contractions or your C-section. And, of course, they could simply research these questions themselves. You know, like big kids. Because dads, labor is not about you. And again, this shouldn't come as a surprise. If pregnancy is not about you, childbirth is 100 percent absolutely, without a shadow of a doubt, not about you at all.
While you might have some needs while your partner is in labor for hours on end, and while you might have the best of intentions while it’s all going down, you need to ask yourself, “Do I really need to ask this question right now?” Because chances are, you don’t. So if you want to be a helpful and show how much of a loving, attentive, supportive partner you truly are, make sure to erase these questions out of your mind the minute those contractions start: