With my first child, I started to experience undersupply shortly before it was safe for her to start transition to cow’s milk. She was 11 months old and I was producing about one feeding’s worth short of milk for her a day, so I needed to supplement with formula for a month before we introduced cow’s milk. So while I didn’t have undersupply with my second child, I had oversupply, and a lot of guilt about it. Though I breastfed my children for over a total of four years, it was hard to feel I was ever “winning” at it, thanks to my undersupply, and then oversupply, issues.
I felt guilty, first for not making enough, and then for making too much. It’s easy to see everything that’s going wrong in the earliest days of motherhood, since it’s all so new. I was charting new territory every day, even with my second baby (after all, this was the first time I had more than one kid). Thankfully, my insurance covered a visit from a lactation consultant, who assured me everything going on was totally normal, because there is no “normal” when it comes to unique sets of breastfeeding moms and babies. With her encouragement, suggestion to use a nipple shield (which, actually, didn’t help me but it could help someone else), and her confidence that my baby was perfectly fine, I was able to tamp down the guilt.
The cons of breastfeeding have always been outweighed by the pros, in my case. But I do not speak for all women who struggle with nursing issues, that's for sure. And my reasons for feeling guilty about having oversupply were unique to me. But maybe a few other moms share these: