For me, mom friends are so necessary. No one can understand me quite like another mother. We both go through similar milestones, heartaches, and understand mother's guilt like no other. We understand each other at our very cores, even if our experiences are vastly different. So if you ask me, when making mom friends it's important to know your deal breakers, also known as things that'll make or break a potential friendship with another mom. Because let's be honest, just because someone you meet is a mom doesn't automatically make you compatible friends.
Choosing mom friends does come down to comparability. Mom friends are really no different than other friends when it comes to relationships, so you must like each other as people in order to be able to hang out with each other often and as friends. But mom friends add another level to a friendship, in my opinion — a deeper bond of "I know what you're going through." And unfortunately completely different parenting techniques can and usually do sufficiently destroy a relationship. For example, a few years ago my daughter was pretty friendly with another girl in her class. I met the mom and we got along right away. We had numerous playdates until I started noticing that the mom lets her children do anything they please. After numerous playdates at our house, where her kids nearly destroyed my couch and my walls, I said no more. If her children do not respect my property, we cannot hang out (not at my house, at least). So while I enjoyed our friendship for a brief moment, it all came to an abrupt halt and I'm not even a little bit sad over it.
So yes, while mom friends are great and necessary, finding a match can be difficult. I am lucky in that I found a few mom friends who are perfect in almost every way. Sure, we sometimes disagree on some parenting ideas or other general ideas, but overall our friendships are solid. So with that in mind, here are a few things can make or break a friendship with a mom, in my humble opinion: