I hear "jokes" all of the time about dads being incompetent parents. From their inability to put diapers on properly to sending kids to school in mismatched clothes and letting them eat candy for breakfast, dads are described as nothing if not clueless. While I have to admit these "jokes" are rooted in a little bit of truth, I hate how often we all reinforce gender stereotypes and, as a result, let dads off the hook. There are things us moms need to just let our parenting partners do, even if they end up doing something "wrong" or differently than we would do.
If I'm being honest, I have to say that I regularly find myself complaining to my friends about how I'm the primary, default parent at our house. I frequently shoulder more than my share of the parenting load, and rarely, if ever, get a break. But it's also super hard for me not to step in when my partner tries to contribute, or take over entirely when I see him parenting in a different way than I do.
Because I've been my children's main caregiver for so long I have parenting our kids down to a science. I’ve spent a lot of time over the years trying new things and finding out what really works and doesn't work for our family, to the point that our schedule is set in stone and consistently beneficial for everyone involved. Now that my husband is stepping up more and trying to play a larger role as a co-parent to our kids, I have to force myself to take a step back and, well, let him. Not just for my sake, but so my kids know that they can rely on him as a parent, too. If I want our relationship to change and for him to become a more active parent, I have got to let go and let him do more things... like the following: