Haley DePass

Haley DePass is a single mom living with her son in Santa Barbara, CA. She is a writer, as well as a jaded veteran of the food service industry.

I Tried Walking to Induce Labor, & Now I Regret It Immensely

Toward the end of the third trimester, it's pretty common for women to want their pregnancies to be over and for the baby to arrive. This was 100% the case for me. I couldn’t wait for my pregnancy to be over — not just because I was excited for my…
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Honestly, My Postpartum Hair Loss Made Me Feel Ugly

I feel like I got shafted a lot when it came to experiencing some of the magical moments that were supposedly going to happen during my pregnancy. People told me I'd be “glowing,” but mine wasn’t much of a glow — rather a constant sheen of sweat.…
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Honestly, It's Really Hard For Me To Stand Up For Myself As A New Mom

This is an interesting period of time to be a mom, especially a young one. I feel like I live in a world where there's constant criticism over every decision I make as a parent. I'm constantly bombarded with articles that highlight how rampant…
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I'm Scared To Make "Mom Friends" Because I Don't Want To Lose Who I Am

I've never had an issue making friends. Well, either that, or I’ve just been cool with not having many friends and hanging out by myself. I remember during my pregnancy that I'd get suggestions or referrals to Mommy Yoga or Mommy and Me groups and…
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I Know I'm A New Mom, But I Really Need A Break

Our children change in the blink of an eye. As a parent, especially a first-time parent, there are so many moments you don’t want to miss. I've been so fortunate to see all of my son’s firsts: his first smile, first laugh, the first time he rolled…
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I Don't Co-Parent With My Ex For The Safety Of Our Son

Breaking up, separating, and divorcing are obviously very painful things for a person to go through, depending on the circumstances. And when children are involved, it’s a significantly more complicated process. When I first heard that Angelina…
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I Let My Son Cry It Out For 10 Days & Honestly, It Saved Us Both

I was on the brink this past month. My 9-month-old son was just starting to learn to self-soothe at bedtime, but getting himself to sleep at nap time was just not happening. He had a lot of help from the car, the stroller, and the bouncer. I…
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Being A Single Mom Doesn't Mean My Son Is "Missing Out" On Having A Dad

I think most single moms know “the look” people give them after they've explained they're no longer with their child’s, or children’s, co-parent. As a single mom, I get the, “oh, you poor thing,” eyes from people every time the fact that my son's…
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Actually, I'm Glad I Was Induced

I look back at my pregnancy, and I don’t look back at it fondly. I was not a Kourtney Kardashian, pulling my babies out and into this world without the help of an induction to go into labor. But I was a Kim through and through. I was sick the entire…
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Honestly, I Was Embarrassed To Admit I Was Pregnant

I think it’s pretty typical nowadays to celebrate the fact that you're not pregnant. Seeing that single pink line, or negative sign, frowning face, or whatever sign or symbol may indicate life has thrown you a free pass from growing a human this…
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My Son Saved Me From My Abusive Relationship

I used to be one of those people who planned my life out in advance. I knew what I was going to be doing six months from now; I knew what I was going to be doing five years from now. I planned out how I'd get to where I needed to be, whether that…
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No, You Can't "Just Leave" An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

If I thought long enough about all of the moments in my relationship when I knew I should have left, I'd drive myself wild. I consistently reprimand my own naivety and feel stupid for being "blinded by love." My own self-criticism of my…
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My Baby's 8- To 10-Month Sleep Regression Almost Ruined Me

I remember the first time my child slept through the entire night. He'd just turned 2 months old, and I'd worked diligently for a week to get him on a consistent eat, play, sleep schedule. I reaped the benefits of my hard work as one full night of…
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I Had Mastitis & This Is What It Was Like

There were a lot of things I was up in arms over after giving birth. There were horrors no one decided to share with me, like how the first time you go poop is arguably one of the most terrifying experiences of your life, or the fact you're rocking…
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What Breastfeeding With Short Nipples Is Actually Like

I naively thought that my breastfeeding experience would be similar to the women in the birthing class videos. I had this grand idea in my head that there would be quiet Yogi music playing as the late morning light shined on us all through the…
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My Parents Are My Co-Parents & This Is What It's Like

Tonight is one of the second of five days when my parents have a night off — not from babysitting, but from co-parenting. My mom and dad, like myself, are my son’s full-time parents. I am a 24-year-old single mom, and I've found myself in the…
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How Being In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship Affects My Parenting

I remember the pleading and the crying and the outright begging I did as my then-partner brutally broke up with me when I was eight months pregnant. He made me feel like it was my fault he was leaving me, that I was the one who exhibited the bad…
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