It's hard to know what a new mom will want or need once her baby is born. Since every woman and every baby is different, anticipating the needs of a postpartum woman is anything but simply. However, now that I'm on the other side of it (for now and at least until another baby arrives) I can clearly see that there are some key sanity-saving things you can do for a new mom in the middle of that taxing, draining, exhausting, and otherwise challenging newborn stage. We don't all have to be the same to want (and essentially need) the same things.
Even before I got pregnant, it was made pretty clear to me that the newborn stage is nothing short of a hot mess. I prepared myself to be totally unprepared, knowing there was only so much my partner and I could do to ready ourselves and our home for the arrival of another human being. We followed checklists, we pre-washed onesies and baby pajamas, and assembled furniture (OK, he assembled furniture while I took pictures for posterity), but that didn’t stop the newborn stage from totally knocking us sideways and upside down and all over again.
The good news? Almost every other parent has been through it, so there’s lots of opportunities to seek out advice, resources, and support. Or, if said new mom is totally buried underneath piles of diapers and bottles and unable to seek it out, there are still ways for them to be showered with those resources, too. Alright, maybe not “showered” per se, but thrown a lifeline or perhaps a offered bottle of water, especially if she's breastfeeding. So if there's a woman in your life and she's knee-deep in the sea that is caring for a newborn, here are just a few of the many ways you can support her: