Meeting my babies for the first time was magical. My initial sighs of relief were always followed with an intense need to snuggle them close. I was also bombarded with so many thoughts, including, "Are they OK?" and, "It's all right, baby" and, "Hello, I'm your mommy." It was an incredible and intense experience, so during the golden hour all I wanted was some privacy so I could get to know my babies and enjoy those happy love hormones. In fact, there are things a new mom shouldn't have to ask for during the golden hour, privacy included, because after the work she's put in to bring a new human being into the world, she shouldn't have to do much of anything at all.
After each one of my babies were born, my needs were pretty simple. Once it was established that my baby was OK, the placenta was delivered, and my stitches were placed, all I really wanted was some privacy, some snuggles, and a damn snack. I didn't, however, appreciate being told I needed to vacate the room (which totally happened after my first baby was born), which meant that I needed to get up and walk rather than spend time with my baby. I also didn't appreciate visitors wanting to get their baby fix before my baby and I had a chance to get acquainted. In my opinion, the baby should be held by mom first, then her partner, and then mom again and until she is ready to let someone else have a turn (so, you know, check back in a few months).
Childbirth is an overwhelming experience, but once the main event is over it's possible to help ease new moms into postpartum life by offering comfort, support, and some damn peace and quiet, especially during the golden hour. Sadly, and usually, that's not what actually happens. No one asked me what I wanted or needed during that first hour of each of my babies' lives, and I wasn't really capable of adequately expressing my needs. I was so hungry, tired, and vulnerable, not ready for visitors, and I desperately needed to rest with my baby after my challenging pregnancy and long labor. In other words, new moms are exhausted. So if you want to continue to care for their wellbeing while they bond with their babies, give them the following things without them having to ask for them: