There’s something about pregnant people that makes even generally reasonable people ask ridiculous, shaming, personal, and intrusive questions. As a woman who has been pregnant more than once, I can safely say I've heard it all but rarely answered with anything other than silence or sarcasm. Sorry people, but there are things you don't get to ask me when I'm pregnant, no matter how well-intentioned or curious you are.
It's seriously uncool, inappropriate, and downright creepy to ask someone about their body, sex life, fertility, boobs, or vagina, regardless of whether or not they're growing another human being in their body. Still, and against all reason and logic, people seem to think it's OK, as if pregnancy magically negates all social etiquette. My body belongs to me and my plans for pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting are none of your freaking business. Learn some boundaries, please.
These guidelines apply to everyone, by the way, including strangers at Starbucks, men on the street, other moms in internet parenting groups, and, perhaps especially, my mother-in-law. I don't care if you think you're being helpful, feel entitled to a response, or honestly and truly care about me. Ask yourself why you really want to know the answer to your intrusive question, because chances are your motives aren't entirely pure. So consider this a public service announcement of sorts, because there's simply no reason to ever put a pregnant person (or any person) in an uncomfortable situation because you feel like they owe you something. Just, no.