To say that we challenge gender roles in our family is a bit of an understatement. However, as much as we try to convince our kids that gender is a social construct and traditional gender roles are bullsh*t, we have our work cut out for us. Sure, their mom has a faux hawk, and their dad wears makeup and loves to cook, but they absorb so much from school, the internet, and the world around us. Regardless though (and to my pleasant surprise) my there have been so many times my kid reminded me that gender constructs are for the birds, and not the other way around.
I am convinced that our world would be a better, more equitable place if more people realized that gender is a social construct that doesn't have anything to do with what we look like, what we like, how we dress, what we are good at, and what careers we pursue. Maybe if we raise our sons to see their dads cooking and cleaning and to understand that they, too, need to learn to excel at “women’s work,” more men and boys would step up and take a larger role in parenting. Maybe if we teach our daughters they're more than just pretty faces, expected to act like "ladies" and dress a certain way, they might become CEOs, scientists, or president when they grow up. The possibilities are limitless when we discard the limits of gender and gender stereotypes.
My husband and I talk regularly about who does what in our relationship in terms of physical and emotional labor. We share tasks at home based on who likes to do certain things, ability and, honestly, who can or cannot stand to watch the other muddle through a task that they like to be done in a certain way (it's me, and the kitchen, sorry honey). We seem to be doing a pretty good job of modeling nontraditional gender roles for our kids, because every day, one of them teaches us a thing or two about gender constructs and why they are for the birds.